Why Life Changes Make Everyday Routines Harder (And What to Do About It)
Have you ever felt like you used to be good at this “adulting” thing, and now you just aren’t? Maybe your morning routine ran like clockwork…
An autistic client came to me because he is struggling to follow through on daily tasks after work. By evening he is exhausted and can’t get to the other things on his to-do list. He’s frustrated, and he sees it as an executive functioning problem. He believes a better calendar or smaller task steps would fix it.
Those tools can help. But there is more going on underneath.
Where he sees an executive functioning challenge, I see autistic burnout and a nervous system depleted by constant sensory demands. His depleted nervous system needs to be addressed before anything else.
Autistic burnout is a syndrome thought to result from chronic life stress and a mismatch between expectations and abilities, without adequate supports. It’s marked by pervasive, long-term exhaustion (typically 3+ months), loss of function, and reduced tolerance to stimulation (Raymaker et al., 2020, p. 133).
Burnout has many contributors. I’m zooming in on the sensory piece, because sensory processing is a core part of what occupational therapists are trained to assess.
Research suggests different things may be at play:
Over a full day, that adds up. By evening, there may be little capacity left for anything else. If this continues to happen day after day burnout can occur.
Occupational therapists are trained to understand how sensory demands affect a person’s ability to complete the tasks that matter to them, and to help individuals use evidence-based strategies to manage those demands.
For my client, that means:
Burnout recovery isn’t quick, but it is possible when the support fits how your nervous system works
If you’re struggling with follow-through, it may not be a planning problem. It may be a capacity problem, and that’s something we can work on.
If you are tired of forcing yourself through systems that do not fit, AEO Coaching can help you look closer at what is happening and build a more sustainable way forward.
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