Why Life Changes Make Everyday Routines Harder (And What to Do About It)
Have you ever felt like you used to be good at this “adulting” thing, and now you just aren’t? Maybe your morning routine ran like clockwork…

Clients often describe trouble getting started as a lack of motivation. I have a complicated relationship with the word motivation. The word itself isn’t bad – it’s the association people have with the word.
People think lack of motivation = laziness which only increases shame, self-depreciating language and self-doubt. It allows fear to creep in and that voice in your head to say “I am not reliable” and “if I can’t get things done how will anyone ever count on me?”
Difficulty getting started is not evidence of laziness. There are neurobiological processes involved in motivation, reward, effort, and action. Knowing how to tap into your brain to get it moving is the key.
Please don’t assume just because you can’t get started you are lazy. That judgement stops curiosity in its tracks. Instead, put on the white lab coat and look at the situation from an objective point of view.
This difficulty getting started is often referred to as task initiation. Task initiation is one part of executive functioning, and difficulty with it can show up in many different ways.
In future articles I’ll be talking about strategies to help with each of these challenges. For now when task avoidance shows up do 3 things:
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